I’m not going to lie, women are hard to understand. It’s a fact. We often like to string ourselves out so far until we practically lose our minds. And when we are overly stressed, we sometimes take it out on our spouses. It can be difficult to understand what’s going on inside her mind. But, even though it seems like it’s hard to satisfy your wife, these nine tips are guaranteed to make her smile and score you some brownie points!
Here are 9 tips that are sure to help improve your relationship with your wife!
1. Take an Interest
Acknowledge what goes on in her everyday life, and ask her all about it. Let her know that you care about even the smallest details. Ask her about her job, or her day. Frequently ask her what she’s thinking about, you would be surprised how often she has something on her mind that she needs to let out. Women sometimes get nervous to talk about what’s on their mind because they don’t want to come off as “annoying” by talking all the time. Make sure she knows that you would love to hear anything she has to say.
2. Provide Support and Encouragement
This is so important in a relationship. Women often feel as if they could use more support in everything that they do. Whether it’s their job, their current hobby, or their lifelong goals, they need encouragement.
Tell her she can do it, and remind her that she is going to succeed and you will be right there beside her every step of the way. So many people give up on their dreams because they feel as if the world is against them. If they had someone who constantly reassured them that they could do it, and that they have someone in their corner at all times, people wouldn’t give up as often. There’s no better feeling than accomplishing your goals, so help her get there by supporting her in any way you can.
Any woman will LOVE something with sentiment behind it. There is something so satisfying about a man putting thought into something involving your relationship. When you get her a gift or take her out, try to add an element of sentiment. It can be as simple as playing a song in the car that reminds you both of a certain memory, or it could be some sort of grand gesture. Either way, she will love that moment where she thinks to herself, “he remembered.” My husband got me this “What I Love About You” book, and filled it out with truly meaningful answers. Not just compliments on my physical appearance, but things that show that he truly knows me, and appreciates me. Sentiment is my (and many other women’s) favorite part of romanticism. Every girl is a sucker for romance!
4. Take her on More Dates
You can never go on too many dates, if you’re doing it right! Taking her on a date is your way of saying “I want some alone time with you so I can sit back and enjoy your company.” Now, dates might not be that exciting for her if you always take her to the same restaurant, and sit on your phone the entire time. Try changing up your dates, take her to do something that she would love, even if it isn’t necessarily your cup of tea. She will be so grateful for your thoughtfulness.
You can never compliment your woman too much, either. Especially if it’s something that catches her off guard. For instance, my husband tells me every day I look great without makeup on. I love that he does that. But when I take my time to do a dramatic cat eye with some cool contour, that is art. If he walked up to me and said, “Wow honey I love your makeup today, that must have taken you a while because it’s perfect.” I would probably cry tears of joy.
Compliment her on things she doesn’t think you even notice. You’ll be surprised to see how much her confidence rises, and you’ll notice this glow coming off her as she smiles… and it might just be your new favorite feature about her.
6. Make Eye Contact
There’s nothing more pleasing than having someone stop what they’re doing, and look you right in the eyes as they tell you they love you. Eye contact can communicate things that our mouths cannot. There’s something so satisfying about sitting there staring someone in the eyes, until you can’t help but let out a huge grin.
Knowing that you’re both just sitting there appreciating everything about the person sitting right in front of them, is such a wonderful feeling. Next time you see your lady just stare at her and smile, see how long it takes before she blushes and smiles back. Use to your advantage the fact that making her day better could consist of no more than eye contact.
7. Always take her seriously
Nothing is more frustrating than when you’re upset about something, and people aren’t taking you seriously. So, even if your wife is upset about something and you don’t think it’s important, take her seriously. If it’s important to her, it should be important to you because you love her.
Don’t make her feel dumb for what’s upsetting her. If you take her seriously and talk her through it, she’s much more likely to see your point of view, and calm down. But if you tell her she’s being ridiculous, she’s probably going to use it.
8. Confide in her
For women, one of the most exciting parts of getting married is to be getting a new best friend that she can trust. Someone she can tell anything and everything. But, she’s not going to feel comfortable opening up to you if you aren’t willing to do the same. Women love to feel needed, and wanted. Let her be your best friend, and you be hers.
9. Do things before she has to ask you
A lot of men say that they hate it when their wife nags them. Trust me, women hate hearing themselves nag too. So don’t make her ask you more than once. Better yet, don’t make her ask you at all. If you see the trash is full, take it out. If you see your dirty clothes on the floor, pick them up.
Odds are, the more you do… the less she’ll ask you to do. If she walks into the kitchen to ask you to take out the trash, and you’re in the middle of doing dishes, she’ll likely just take the trash out herself because she’s so grateful you’re doing the dishes. Try it, I bet you’ll be surprised how happy it makes her!
For more tips on working on your marriage, read 7 Ways to Seriously Improve Your Marriage
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