Why Your Pain is Actually Your Biggest Motivator
“Pain is Inevitable, Suffering is Optional”
Suffering from emotional pain can make you feel vulnerable, and worthless. It can make you feel like you are a failure, like nothing you do is going to stop you from hurting. Pain can create so many negative emotions, from anxiety to depression, and sometimes even anger. But it also has so many positive affects. From pain comes strength, happiness, and success. All you have to do is change your mindset, and work on using your emotional stress as a tool to better yourself.
Now let me tell you a little bit about myself. First of all, I don’t accept excuses. I don’t like “pity parties”. I believe that life is what you make of it, and if you want to waste your time feeling sorry for yourself instead of trying to fix things, then you need to re-evaluate your attitude. If you’re thinking, wow this girl is heartless…I promise you I’m not. I’ve developed this mindset because I had a rough childhood. My parents were addicted to drugs. While they were dysfunctional, my grandmother who took care of me was perfect. And I know every one says their grandma’s are the best, but seriously… I’ve never met someone as selfless as this woman. But even though I had her there with me for the beginning years of my life, I still felt pain. I felt loneliness, betrayal, and most of all… I felt angry. I didn’t understand how someone wouldn’t want their baby. How could someone not feel the desire to do what’s best for this innocent, helpless child. I think I was about 13 years old when I had an epiphany. I realized that I wasted so much time despising my parents, that I forgot to thank them. They had lit a spark inside me that was going to be the start of something amazing.
Because my parents were not the best of influences, I knew I had a choice to make–either I copy the behavior I watched growing up because “it’s what I was taught,” or I learn from it, and know to never make the same mistakes. Can you guess which mindset I adopted? Yeah, the second one. So when I say I don’t accept excuses, it’s because everyone faces those two options, and if I can choose correctly, so can anyone else. There’s nothing you can say to me to make me think there’s a reason you can’t succeed. I can’t tell you the number of times that I’ve found myself wanting to give up. And then I remember… Be better. Show everyone that just because you come from a history of failure doesn’t mean you cannot succeed. Failure is NOT genetic. And I’ll tell you what, there’s no better motivator in this world than proving someone wrong.
Pain will make you stronger. Let it teach you how to be better. Use it against itself. Don’t let ANYONE shake your faith in yourself. And most importantly, don’t forget that you choose your own attitude. You can choose to let the pain eat you alive, or you can use it to prove to everyone around you that no matter what life throws at you, you will come out on top.